Divorce can be
devastating on your family. In an effort to maintain some peace and civility
many families have decided to look towards collaborative divorce as an alternative
to litigation. Collaborative divorce involves an effort by both parties to work
together with their attorneys in the best interest of their family. This
includes working together to discuss child custody, monetary, and property
issues. Along with your lawyer, your process will be aided by helpful
professionals that can evaluate the situation and help assess any areas of
dispute. This often includes health professionals, financial aides, or divorce
coaches who help you make decisions on some of the toughest choices involved in
divorce.
In
the collaborative process parties sign a Collaborative Participation Agreement
that allows for voluntary, open discussion of all relevant matters. The parties
consent to work outside of the courtroom with the agreement if either party
files any contested court proceeding, it will nullify the collaborative effort
and the family will need new lawyers and other professionals.
Often
the question is whether collaborative divorce is right for you. The
International Academy of Collaborative Professionals suggests that when
determining whether the collaborative process is appropriate for your matter,
consider if the following values are important to you:
- I want to maintain the tone of respect, even when we
disagree.
- I want to prioritize the needs of our children.
- My needs and those of my spouse require equal
consideration, and I will listen objectively.
- I believe that working creatively and cooperatively
solves issues.
- It is important to reach beyond today's frustration
and pain to plan for the future.
- I can behave ethically toward my spouse.
- I choose to maintain control of the divorce process
with my spouse, and not relegate it to the courts.
If these values are something
that you hold dear - then collaborative divorce may be the route for your
family. If you are interested on embarking on the collaborative divorce
process, please feel free to call our office to schedule an appointment so that
we can answer any questions you have and better inform you of your options.
Sources: http://www.collaborativepractice.com/
